LDR Survival

I came across a blog post about long-distance relationships, by a girl who saw her boyfriend 12 times in 2.5 years. I think I have only just exceeded this number of visits in one year so my LDR is clearly different but by no means better.

Here are some of my tips for LDR survival:

Trust - is essential. If one of you has insecurities, the other must be supportive and reassure. In return you need to work out a way to overcome the insecurities.
Count the weekdays - the other blog suggests counting the number of weekends til you see each other. For me and Filip, we always have less than 4 weeks til we meet again, so it makes sense for us to count the weekdays as weekends always fly by.
Keep in touch with their family - I agree with this from the other blog. I email Filip’s mum regularly. It shows you care and puts the relationship on a different level. It makes me feel closer to Filip too.
Keep busy - See friends, keep up with work, exercise. Be independent. It is common for people to let go of themselves when they are in a comfortable relationship. If you stay focused, you will remain that hot, happy, independent girl he fell for.
Text messages and phonecalls - Sometimes Filip and I only speak at the end of the day, sometimes we talk all day. It didn’t matter because we found a balance and it works. Figure something out that fits into your life easily according to time zone. UK is only one hour behind Sweden/Germany so it was easy for us. Skype and iphone are my must-haves.
Communication, respect and consideration- Don’t play games, don’t assume, don’t give him a reason to doubt you. We talk about everything. We always think of the other. If you wouldn’t act in a certain way if he was in the same room, then you shouldn’t act in that way when he’s not. You should know your own set of unwritten “rules”.
Expiry date of the “long-distance” - I think it is so important to have an end to the “long-distance” label. The ultimate goal is to eventually be together. Knowing when it will be is essential.

I don’t agree with things like: hold his sweatshirt, print facebook messages, listen to Vanessa Carlton on repeat, etc. I don’t think being in a long-distance relationship should rule your life where you are pining for him, crying everyday or depressed because you are apart.

It is hard but you have to find a way to deal with it and stay positive. It’s exciting and you appreciate the time you spend with each other more without taking the other for granted. For me, long-distance was something I thought I wouldn’t be able to deal with. It has tested our love and compatibility but now its coming to an end, I feel our relationship is stronger than ever.

LDR Survival

Here are some of my tips for LDR survival:

Trust - is essential. If one of you has insecurities, the other must be supportive and reassure. In return you need to work out a way to overcome the insecurities.
Count the weekdays - the other blog suggests counting the number of weekends til you see each other. For me and Filip, we always have less than 4 weeks til we meet again, so it makes sense for us to count the weekdays as weekends always fly by.
Keep in touch with their family - I agree with this from the other blog. I email Filip’s mum regularly. It shows you care and puts the relationship on a different level. It makes me feel closer to Filip too.
Keep busy - See friends, keep up with work, exercise. Be independent. It is common for people to let go of themselves when they are in a comfortable relationship. If you stay focused, you will remain that hot, happy, independent girl he fell for.
Text messages and phonecalls - Sometimes Filip and I only speak at the end of the day, sometimes we talk all day. It didn’t matter because we found a balance and it works. Figure something out that fits into your life easily according to time zone. UK is only one hour behind Sweden/Germany so it was easy for us. Skype and iphone are my must-haves.
Communication, respect and consideration- Don’t play games, don’t assume, don’t give him a reason to doubt you. We talk about everything. We always think of the other. If you wouldn’t act in a certain way if he was in the same room, then you shouldn’t act in that way when he’s not. You should know your own set of unwritten “rules”.
Expiry date of the “long-distance” - I think it is so important to have an end to the “long-distance” label. The ultimate goal is to eventually be together. Knowing when it will be is essential.